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Why triangulation and gossip at work is toxic
Gossip may seem like just a bit of fun, but in reality, it’s far from harmless. Left unchecked, gossip -along with the triangulation that comes with it, can be highly toxic. It creates a working atmosphere so unpleasant that it can leave people miserable, impacting individuals, teams, performance, and general productivity.
Cultivating habitual kindness
This blog explores what art and science can tell us about how to cultivate kindness. Have you ever noticed that if you ask a child what they want to be when they are older, common responses often range from ''I don't know'' to a ''footballer'', “a doctor'', or a ''popstar''?
The neuroscience of habits and how the brain works
Over the past decade, the integration of neuroscience, technology and behavioural economics has led to a more nuanced and comprehensive understanding of the power of habit and the pivotal role that habit plays in behaviour change. It is all about different parts of the brain and how they work together.
Hooked on ‘people pleasing’ at work? Here’s how to stop
Brene Brown isn’t the only one who used to struggle with saying ‘no’, something that can affect even the most successful of us. US chat show superstar Oprah Winfrey calls it the 'disease to please', and she didn’t manage to overcome the impulse to say ‘yes’ to everything until she hit forty. Others have defined it as an ‘unhealthy focus on others’ rather than yourself.
Stakeholder management – Get people on board, keep them there
It’s rare to embark on a work project that doesn’t depend on other people for investment, support, resources, or all three. Because working with multiple stakeholders could prove one of your biggest challenges, managers and leaders need to know about and handle stakeholder management well.
The perils of Groupthink and how to avoid them
Groupthink can happen to anyone, any collection of people and any business. It is something to watch out for and to guard against. Take the 2008 economic crisis, the space shuttle explosion, Swissair’s insolvency and Kodak’s failure to get on board with digital camera tech quickly.
Get hooked on the good stuff – Develop a positive gratitude habit
Genuine gratitude, as opposed to toxic positivity, is a powerful mindset. It can make you feel more empowered, resilient, altruistic, and happier in your work and personal life. So what’s the story behind mindful gratitude, and how might it help you improve your performance?
The beautiful African philosophy of Ubuntu – An antidote to individualism
Ubuntu is essentially about togetherness, and how all of our actions have an impact on others and on society. It is the common thread of the UN’s Global Goals, and the motivation in the mission to end extreme poverty — so that everyone, everywhere, can live equally.
Mel Robbins’ fascinating world – About change, and why we don’t!
It’s always interesting discovering a new slant on life and to discover a refreshingly different idea. Mel Robbin’s approach falls neatly into that category. Her attitude to change, and why people don’t change, is both radical and determined. It’s well worth looking at. Plus, her approach might be just what you are looking for and suit you down to the ground.
Check your thinking with the Ladder of Inference
We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t jump to conclusions. But when we test our assumptions beforehand, we can make better decisions, avoid unconscious biases, and adjust our initial reactions. Chris Argyris’ Ladder of Inference provides a structure to do this, making it a useful resource for anyone, especially mentors, managers and coaches.
Do you want to hide from a difficult conversation? Try this!
It has been keeping you awake. You find yourself talking to the person in your head, ranting your way through the daily commute, unable to eat or sleep well, dreading the tough conversation you think you can’t avoid.
The magical powers of dyslexic people – And how to inspire them
This is dyslexia, a learning difficulty affecting around 10-15% of us of every age, from every background and every culture. While it can cause distress, it can also be enormously positive.
Uncovering unconscious bias – developing greater awareness
These days the workplace is all about inclusive leadership and management. It is also about mentoring and coaching in a way that fosters mutual understanding and respect, plus inclusive behaviours.
Temple Grandin rates mentors super-high – Here’s why
Temple Grandin was diagnosed with autism as a child. She thinks in pictures, a novel way to solve problems in a way that isn’t accessible to people with neurotypical brains.
About neurodiversity – how it adds value
We’re all different. Every one of us is unique. Here, we explore the term neurodiversity and reveal why it’s so important to be aware of it in the workplace.
The risks of confirmation bias – and how to avoid it
Which coaches, managers and leaders are at risk of confirmation bias? Basically, all of us. Confirmation bias is horribly easy to fall into. It can cloud anyone’s judgement. And it’s wise to know about it so you can keep your thinking clear. Here’s what you need to know
When two heads are better than one – The power of reciprocal mentoring
As a leader in a company, your experiences at work will be very different from those of a junior employee. In fact, everyone’s experience of work and of life differs. To make good business decisions at every level, it’s important to understand each others’ worlds, and that’s where reciprocal mentoring comes in. So what is it, and why it is such a good idea?
Leading: the conductor as an archetype
Leaders come in every shape, size and flavour, but one of the most common leadership archetypes is the conductor of an ensemble or orchestra. Just as there any many types of leaders, there is also a wide variety of conductors, each of whom fulfils their role differently.
About Wigs and Pigs – And how to survive the Whirlwind – Part 1
So many great ideas, so little time... what do you do, as a leader, when there’s a multitude of inspiring ideas flying around but you simply don’t have the resources to make them all happen? When everything seems equally urgent in the whirlwind of everyday working life, where do you focus your energies? You need to be able to see the wood for the trees.
How to harness the 4 Disciplines of Execution to achieve WIGS – Part 2
We’ve already talked about WIGS, those Wildly Important Goals that need to be teased out of the tangle of potential tasks, the projects most worth focusing on. But once you’ve identified them, how do you actually get them done? Let’s explore the 4 Disciplines of Execution.
Discover Patsy Rodenburg’s take on Presence
It’s all about circles. Patsy Rodenberg’s take on Presence helps leaders be present in the moment and stay fully engaged with the ‘now’. Let’s explore.
Brené Brown’s Rising Strong – How to fall, learn from failure and bravely stand again
The American researcher and internet phenomenon Brené Brown’s popular book, Daring Greatly, explores the importance of not giving up. Her ideas are inspired by a speech by Teddy Roosevelt, Citizenship in a Republic, delivered at the Sorbonne in Paris way back in 1910. You can read it at the end of this post.
Discover the power of single, double and triple loop learning
We are creatures of habit, so learning and change can be a tricky thing to drive. Some kinds of change are harder to implement than others. Single, double and triple loop learning, as defined by Argyris & Schön in 1974 can be a helpful way of understanding how we become stuck, and why, when, and how transformational learning is more likely to occur.
About Servant Leadership – The extraordinary power of being human
There are so many different leadership styles. Some will suit you and the circumstances better than others. This time we’re delving deep into the Servant Leadership style, where you lead to serve. As you’ll see it’s very different from traditional leadership, which puts the organisation before the people.
About Narrative Fallacy – And how to stop it running your life
Humans adore stories. We also love the idea of cause and effect, and that's why we create narratives to explain and justify the way we are, the things we do and the way we feel.
Situational Leadership – Make a fantastic job of leading your people
What is Situational Leadership, and why does it matter? Situational Leadership is a style developed by Kenneth Blanchard and Paul Hersey in the ‘70s. It reveals how leaders and managers benefit from changing their style to fit the situation and the people they’re leading.
Matthew Dicks and the magic of Homework for Life
Homework for Life is a strategy that I originally began using to generate more story topics for the stage, but as I began to use the strategy daily, it changed my life. It made everything about my life so much more vivid and slowed my life down remarkably. It's a strategy I teach to my storytelling classes often, and I've had people tell me that it has replaced therapy and meditation for them. It truly changes lives. Powerful.
The risk of single stories, and the value of balance
In the 1930s scientists began examining the cognitive effects of labeling. According to a hypothesis by the linguist Benjamin Whorf, the words we use to describe what we see aren't just random. They actually determine what we experience to a startling degree. And that can be dangerous.
True Grit – The importance of getting your story straight
Failure hurts. When you fail, make mistakes, relationships become strained or you disappointingly lose, it can shatter your equilibrium. Inevitably it always involves having to pick yourself up and dust ourselves off. It can take plenty of resolve and resilience to start again.
Changing your negative thinking patterns – how to identify mind traps and free yourself up
You think your innermost feelings are hidden. Maybe you're not even often sure what they are. But the language you use provides all sorts of clues about the way you're feeling, your attitudes, fears and more. In fact, our language can highlight distortions in our thinking, and it does it surprisingly clearly.
Fine-tune your resilience – 3 secrets to staying steady in tough times
Every one of us is faced with great difficulty right now during Covid19 lock-down, and plenty of us are facing tragedy. Many of us are feeling wobbly. We're riding so many emotions in one day, the unfolding situation is unprecedented and it's hard to manage.
Live more freely with Virginia Satir’s Five Freedoms
Virginia Satir was an influential American author and psychotherapist, respected for her innovative approach to family therapy during from the 1950s onwards. Her pioneering work led to her nickname, the Mother of Family Therapy.
About the process of transition – And how to handle it well
Everyone experiences transition at work. It can be as dramatic as a seismic shift in the outlook of the business or as basic as someone familiar leaving the firm, the loss of a loyal supporter. The key is to recognise a transition point when you reach one, and to handle it well.
Working with three horizons in mind – shaping new futures
We are living in such uncertain and volatile times. Everyone is searching for some ‘handle’ on the future? We are seeking to see what emerges and how to shape different futures - find a way forward through all the uncertainties and complexities.
A health narrative can boost your business no end. Here’s how.
Does your business suffer from an illness narrative or benefit from a health narrative? It's remarkable what a difference positivity makes...
Introducing our Transformational Narrative Coaching book – the power of story
Human beings have always told stories. In the beginning, we huddled around campfires. These days we huddle around the TV, mobile or computer, in pubs and restaurants, at home and at work, to create and consume the stories of our lives, other people's lives, businesses and the media.
Harness Virginia Satir’s Change Curve to lead change better
Change can make a lot of us feel very uncomfortable. We can find ourselves lost in the midst of change, unsure how to move forwards, worried about the results and implications of doing things differently. Some people are so reluctant to change that it can cause real problems. As a coach, manager or mentor, change is something you’ll to support people with.
Understanding the grief cycle
Grief. It’s part of the human condition, part of life. At some point in our lives we all have to deal with it, and we all do so in different ways. At the same time there has always been a need to deal with grief with grace, deconstruct it, handle it and understand it. That’s another part of the human condition. We can’t help ourselves.
How to handle five generations in the same workplace
Your workplace could easily involve five generations. This is the first time in the history of work that this has happened. While everyone in a company is supposed to work together towards shared goals, people’s attitudes, feelings, approach and expectations differ slightly across the generations.
The importance of presence in coaching
What is ‘presence’ in coaching? It can be hard to define, although when you are with a coach with real presence, you sense it immediately. A coach with genuine presence is highly self-aware and they are mentally, and emotionally present. They have an open, flexible, grounded and confident style. There are interested and focused upon their client.
Self-Determination Theory – The Energy of Action
Self-Determination Theory (SDT) has made a significant impact to field of study of human motivation. SDT added a more multi-faceted understanding of motivation. This approach can be used to better understand yourself and others.
Covey’s Circle of Concern and Influence
Have you heard of Stephen Covey’s Circle of Concern and Influence? It’s extremely useful for coaches and managers, a powerful model to apply to both individuals and teams. So, what’s it all about, and how might it help you survive those downward mood spirals that sometimes hit a group of people, then spread out more widely to others?
The benefits of Reverse Mentoring for more inclusive working
Mentoring usually involves older or more experienced people passing information down to younger, less experienced people. But what if we turned that on its head? Could there be advantages around younger, less experienced employees mentoring older, more experienced colleagues?
Stages of Creativity and Coaching – Part 1
The idea of creativity having developmental stages is not new. It has been around for a long time. It is as relevant now though, as it was in the past. Creativity and innovative outcomes are always needed in business. Concepts that work in reality have great value.
Cultivating Deliberate Creativity in Teams – Part 2
In this blog, I continue to explore how creativity is best understood as a collective effort. One that always involves other people. I describe how this understanding can help groups to think differently and become more deliberately creative. Describing what they need do to get the creativity juices flowing.
Sparking Creativity by Joining the Dots – Part 3
In this blog, I take a closer look at the idea of creativity being seen as a process of ‘joining-the-dots’ and how this idea links to what we know about both individual and group creativity. And how you can use this understanding to bring creativity into your world.
The Scarf Model – David Rock’s take on social threats and rewards
You’re a business manager, leader, change agent, mentor, or coach. Your working life is all about having significant conversations that encourage collaboration, and a big part of that is influencing others. It’s a constant challenge.
Seligman’s PERMA Model of Well-being – applying it within your coaching…
Martin Seligman’s PERMA Model of Well-being can be a useful concept to apply to your own life and work, as well as within in a coaching context. It can provide a framework that you can use with your clients to calibrate more positive emotion, meaning and purpose in their lives.
Are you buckling under Allostatic Overload? What are the signs?
You’re stressed. You feel worn out, drained and flat. The future looks uncertain. You can’t keep hold of your emotions and your sleep is suffering. Your muscles are tense. You’ve become hyper-vigilant. Your body’s stress hormones are surging. And it is utterly exhausting.
The ups and downs of working with a narcissist – And how to survive it!
Narcissism is a trait that can be very difficult to live with as well as very tricky to work with. If you're struggling to cope with a narcissist in a business context, it is challenging and it isn't all bad. Here are the up-sides and downsides of working with a narcissist, and how to survive the experience.
Essential Insight for Managers – How to Challenge Well
As a manager, there's no avoiding it. You will, at one point or another, have to challenge someone's behaviour at work. So how do you successfully challenge somebody on what can sometimes feel like an intensely personal level, when the way they're performing or behaving is rocking the boat?
Minimalism – when less can equal more
What exactly is minimalism and the benefits it has to offer? Essentially, it is all about how less can really be more. The original minimalist movement is recognised as first beginning in the art world. Emerging out of New York City, in the late 1960s.
Charting our way through the storm – Part 1
You will probably be familiar with the following famous quote, shared at the beginning on the COVID-19 pandemic. “We are not all in the same boat. We are all in the same storm. Some are on super-yachts. Some have just one oar.”
Post-traumatic growth (PTG) on the horizon – Part 2
I described the experience as a ‘collective trauma’, no matter which boat you journeyed in. Here, I explore what it means to describe the COVID-19 pandemic in these terms, exploring the lesser talked about side of trauma: Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG).
The Paradox of Luck – Part 1
What are the chances of you existing at all? This was the question that Ali Binazir, the critically acclaimed author and self-described ‘Happiness Engineer’ asked himself. The answer he arrived at: 1 in 102,685,000. Or 10 followed by 2,685,000 zeroes.
Maximising return on luck – Part 2
In this blog, I take a closer look at what Jim Collins and Morten Hansen, the American researchers, authors, and consultants have contributed towards our understanding of luck. Then in turn, how we can apply this understanding to recent events related to the COVID-19 pandemic.
Adopting A Lucky Perspective – Part 3
In this blog, I will take a closer look at examples I have already touched upon in the last two blogs, to help us understand and shape events before they happen in the future.
Solution Circles – Harnessing Group Creativity
Solution-focused approaches to coaching advocate that people are inherently resourceful and creative. It therefore stands to reason that, under the right conditions if we can facilitate groups effectively and in a collaborative way, the potential for even better ideas and outcomes will follow.
Challenging your ‘Righting Reflex’ in coaching – the trap of offering your own solutions
As coaches we want to make a difference. We want to see our clients grow and develop. We are motivated to see clients become unstuck, to achieve their goals and be successful. Sometimes subtly though, our great intentions can go awry.
Harness the power of Solution-Focused Coaching – Part 1
Do more of what works! This is why Solution Focused approaches in both therapy and coaching have gone from strength to strength since its genesis in the 1970s. Here are some of the fundamentals of solution-focused approaches.
The solution in Solution-Focused work: Why does it work? – Part 2
This article explores why solution-focused techniques are useful. The table below is a reminder of the basic principles and takes a deeper look into some of the reasons why these techniques are known to be effective.
Do all clients begin at the same starting point? Understanding the Stages of Change – Part 3
Previously, I outlined how adopting a solution-focused mindset and using some of the techniques associated with Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) can be a powerful approach to incorporate into your work as a coach. This blog highlights the importance of being mindful of nature of change itself.
When the solution is in the listening. The gift of being heard – Part 4
In this series of blogs I have discussed what Solution-focused coaching looks like, including some of the common techniques associated with this approach and why it works. When it works, it feels like magic. Whilst these techniques are key ingredients of this magic, there is a danger that it can overlook a more fundamental element that is needed: Listening.
Leading with Solution-Focused Eyes – Part 5
In this series on the Solution-Focused approach, we have explored the underlying principles and some of the techniques that flow from working in this way. We have also described why they are useful. One of the key aspects is that a coach grounded in solution-focused principles can more readily and effectively support clients in moving towards achieving their goals.
Know the signs – Does your client need coaching or therapy?
Life can be extremely challenging at work and at home. It can get the better of us all at one time or other. As a result the World Health Organization says that depression and anxiety disorders, including stress-related psychiatric issues, are set to become just as prevalent as cardiovascular diseases.
Gathering around a roaring telly – The science of storytelling
In the 1970s parents told children they'd get 'square eyes' from watching too much telly. There's still some snobbery around the idea of hunkering down in front of the TV, which is seen as somehow less worthy than the theatre, opera, film, books, even radio.
Beware – Don’t let ‘busy’ eat into your strategic priorities
Picture this. You're busy. Very busy. Time is running away with you! You're rushing around getting stuff done. But wait a moment – are you really getting things done? Or have you let 'being busy' divert you from your strategic priorities and goals?
About learning styles – Our preferences around effective learning
Take a set of instructions, say the instructions for a self-assembly Ikea wardrobe. You might dive straight in and start the job without reading the instructions – plenty of us do. If you get stuck you might refer to them, but otherwise you find your own way.
Building an anti fragility strategy in these complex times
Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Professor of Risk Engineering, is most famous for his book, The Black Swan: The Impact Of The Highly Improbable (Penguin, 2007). In it, he outlined the concept of ‘black swan events’.
About the Drama Triangle – And how to escape it
If you've ever found yourself trapped in a personal Drama Triangle, you will already know how detrimental it can be to relationships. But it also rears its ugly head in a business context, and it's something well worth watching out for.
How different nationalities see the world differently – And why it matters
Tip a waiter in the USA and you'll get a smile, but tip a waiter in Korea and you can cause offence. In a country where people take a lot of pride in their jobs, extra incentives to get it right the first time are an insult.
What makes a great mentor?
Have you ever enjoyed the support of a skilled mentor, someone whose qualities and attitudes have helped you become the best you can be? Maybe you've been lucky enough to have had more than one fantastic mentor helping you reach your goals?
The joy of connection and completion – About Gestalt theory and coaching
The principle of figure and ground in Gestalt describes the way we all move to complete things, the strong human desire we feel to create a neat whole.
Being different – The value of not always quite fitting in
On the outside, you look the part. You seem competent and at home professionally. But inside, part of you often feels you don't quite fit in. You'll never really be a 'good corporate fit', and you have always felt that way.
Kintsugi, wabi-sabi, and why it’s fine to be imperfect
In Japanese ‘Kintsugi’ means to 'join with gold', an elegant and graceful way to mend broken pottery, leaving the mend fully visible and highlighting it with the precious metal. The pot shards are fused back together with gold, and the gilded cracks become part of the object's beauty.
Has your enthusiasm wilted? Are you bored? You might be pot-bound in your role!
The alarm clock goes off. At first there's that lovely blank feeling, the feeling you get just before you fully wake and realise what your day will involve. Then you remember it's a weekday and your mood sinks.
Forget your superchickens and connect better for brilliant teams
Margaret Heffernan recommends we move past the pecking order at work. As the successful former CEO of five businesses, Margaret has discovered that one of the most common ways businesses are run invariably leads to troubled waters.
Leaders are weavers – of people and stories
In the current crisis, this may seem like an unusual way to talk about leaders. An odd way to describe how they can influence others. The idea of a leader being ‘a weaver of people’ resonates with us. We also believe a leader is a ‘weaver of stories’ - both a story-maker and a storyteller.
What does it mean to flourish at work? Introducing the PERMA Model
Are you happy at work? For most of us, our professional experience is a mix of frustration and fulfilment, plus many hours of grind which can be bland and monotonous. It can also be the opposite, highly pressured and seemingly relentless.
Are you Relentless and Unstoppable?
The tragic, untimely death of basketball legend Kobe Bryant at the end of January 2020 shocked the world, robbing us of a remarkable talent. Professional basketball lost a great player.
How to lead a company well in an increasingly complex world
The subject of how companies should be run is an enduring one. Business Schools and business gurus peddle endless creative solutions, making a good living at theorising and pontificating about it.
Innovate or stagnate? Get ahead of the curve
In a fast-changing world it is important to stay open, and be aware that people who are the most responsive to change are those who survive, even thrive. Does that sound familiar?
Finding your rhythm to achieve the work exercise balance
Do you find daily exercise a constant struggle as it’s often the first priority to get scratched as you juggle a myriad of deadlines at work and at home?
Little decisions, big impact – Small changes have more power than you think
Most of us appreciate the big, sweeping positive changes that happen in our lives. But they're tough to achieve, requiring time, strength and dedication. Little changes are different.
Flattery isn’t feedback – it rarely encourages or inspires genuine confidence
How do you feel about being flattered? Most of us find it slightly uncomfortable, even though we're not always sure why it doesn't feel right. Praise and encouragement almost always feel real. Flattery and ingratiation tend to have a shallower edge, an undercurrent that isn't as positive as it might at first seem, a hidden agenda.
How to write a successful blog for start-ups and small businesses
Writing a blog is a great way to grow your business and add value for your clients, creating a space to let you and your brand’s unique identity shine. Blogs can be a fantastic way to communicate directly with your customers and attract new ones, but with so many company blogs out there sitting unloved and unread in a dusty corner of Google’s search rankings how can you ensure that your blog avoids a similar fate?
About business ownership and the Founder’s Mentality
We have been privileged to coach many ‘founders’ of businesses. Founders are a special breed. Some we have worked with in the white heat of the early days, some in the mayhem of scaling up, and some in the relative peace of the uplands, once the business has become established and successful. But all of the founders we have worked with are remarkable people whose drive and perseverance have often impressed us.
Mastering the ‘experience economy’ – How customers or clients get what they want
The theory of the ‘Experience Economy’ gives us a powerful way of understanding how people get what they want in any ‘marketplace’. It matters because structuring your business around the idea will change the way you look at what you are doing, and how your clients experience it. If it sounds exciting, it is. Here’s an introduction to the experience economy.
Well-formed outcomes – starting with that end point in mind
Well-formed outcomes help people get clear about what it is that they want to achieve. Shaping up future outcomes that are highly defined from the start, is a creative and disciplined way of thinking. One that can have real potency.
Placement years – a student’s real life experience at work
Placement years at Universities are becoming more and more popular, with plenty of reasons why! Placement and Sandwich years are offered to students like myself, whilst studying at University, however not all courses offer them. I’m currently doing an Event Management degree and have just completed my Placement year.
It isn’t money, strategy or technology. So what really makes teams effective?
What makes an exceptional team? As the management guru Patrick Lencioni says in his 2002 book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, “Not finance. Not strategy. Not technology. It is teamwork that remains the ultimate competitive advantage, both because it is so powerful and so rare.” So how functional is your team? Could you do better?
Start-up – giving yourself the best chance to make it
Start-ups are exciting. When you kick off a brand new business, whatever the sector or subject, you’re often on a rollercoaster ride. You need to move quickly and confidently but you also need to remain sure-footed and grounded, blending fresh ideas with tried and trusted business wisdom to create a sturdy, workable whole.
Always busy? Getting busier? Slowing down could change your life!
Everyone's busy. Plenty of us are really, really busy, all of the time. Some say busy-ness has reached epidemic proportions in the wealthy western economy. But is being so busy you can't easily turn around and can't always think well, really a wise approach to work?
About internships – Great for business, great for careers
In the USA internships kicked off in the late 1960s. Since then they've become commonplace over the Atlantic. Roll back time to the 1990s in the UK and internships were more or less unheard of. Now they're a fast-growing trend in Britain too. So what are the advantages of an internship? How do they help businesses, and how about the interns themselves?
Why your glass is actually half full – The value of positive psychology
Are you in the habit of being a 'glass half empty' person, a bit of a pessimist? If so you can learn to become more optimistic, learn how to fill that glass even if you're easily discouraged. You can steadily learn how to change your habitual reactions. Here's why it matters, and how Martin Seligman’s approach and techniques can help you.
James Kerr, the All Blacks, and their awesome insight into leadership
Who does teams and leadership better than anyone else? The New Zealand rugby team The All Blacks do an epic job, and their methods of working together are the primary reason behind their enviable, long-held status as the world's most successful international men's rugby team.
New job? How to make a positive impact and do it FAST!
You've landed a new role. Big congratulations! But beware... it can be a surprisingly tricky transition, a complex pivotal time unless you're prepared. A career move can make or break a leader, especially a new leader with little experience. You need a good, solid plan of action. Here's our survival kit.
How to slow down, calm down, and harness non-violent communication
At various times in your career you'll probably find yourself handling a variety of challenging situations. In fact anyone on an upward career path will encounter tricky circumstances at one time or another, involving unhappy, disappointed and frustrated people. So how do you manage yourself, and them, effectively?
About marketing a new freelance business – The basics
Plenty of people are freelancers. If you're thinking about going freelance yourself, you'll hopefully already have a few clients or customers under your belt, ideally a handful so you're not only reliant on one income stream.
A new start? All about freelancing…
According to Consultancy.uk, there are already around two million freelance workers in Britain, a number that's widely predicted to keep on rising. A dramatic increase in freelancers came about from 2009 onwards, as the global banking crisis and resulting recession began to bite.
16 Reliable Ways to boost your presentation skills
As narrative coaches we're hot on presentation skills. How are yours? Are you struggling to make impactful presentations?
How to be curious, know your leadership blindspots, and lead better
As a leader you cast light and shadow across not only your team but your organisation. That’s one heck of a responsibility. No matter how talented a leader you are, how experienced or self-aware, you will have blind spots.
Help – I’m in a Double Bind and it’s Holding Me Back!
Does this sound familiar? On the outside, to a casual observer, it looks very much like you're committed to that goal, dedicated to bringing about that change, determined to crack that habit.
How to stop your blind spots from tripping you up
Our blind spots often develop when we’re young. They help us survive, and they often start off being pretty useful. But as time goes by and your past successes become your only way to succeed in the present and future, things can get tricky. If our only approach to solving problems doesn’t work in certain environment, we’re lost.
Are You Struggling to Overcome the Imposter Syndrome?
Do you ever feel like an imposter? It's a surprisingly common phenomenon amongst leaders like you. If you find you're constantly worried that someone will realise you're not up to the job and 'find you out', you're not alone.
Take a Better Approach – Make Difficult Work Conversations Easier
When was the last time you absolutely dreaded a difficult conversation you knew had to take place at some time or another? Or put it off, or avoided it altogether? It isn’t unusual.
Want to Become More Flexible and Resilient? Then Simply Let Go…
Are you holding onto pain when doing so doesn’t fix a thing? Are you replaying the past over and over, even though you know it won't change? Do you find yourself wishing things were different? At home or at work?
Changing habits – How long it takes to loop the loop, and how to do it
If you've ever eaten too much chocolate three weeks after a New Year resolution to not do so, or given up on the gym in favour of lounging around, you'll already know it. It can be hard to change a habit.
Want to try something new? Test it with an experiment
We don’t tend to see the world as it really is. We filter the things we see and learn based on our feelings, experiences, beliefs and priorities.
The neuroscience of habits – And how mindfulness can break them
Some habits are good, some are dreadful, others deserve close critical examination, and some particularly strong ones even hold us back from being the best we can be, both in our personal lives and our careers.
Story-driven businesses – How great companies are winning by mattering
You could pull out all the stops to compete, making every effort to become the best in every way, at every stage. Or you could win by mattering instead - mattering to your employees, mattering to the local and wider economy, mattering to your customers.
Thinking about an organisation’s purpose – Why, exactly, does it exist?
Getting your why straight is vital, and that’s why so many successful business leaders think so long and hard about it. When the commercial landscape is in a state of serious sustained turbulence, for example during an acute recession or thanks to Brexit, the why is particularly important.
Keeping things simple – Why less really is more at work
The Apple genius Steve Jobs knew it. Less really is more. It's a saying we've all heard, and it's an excellent approach to life in general as well as work in particular.
Black Box Thinking – Own your mistakes and learn from your mistakes!
Black Box Thinking is all about learning from our mistakes. According to the author, Matthew Syed in his great book with the same name, it also links neatly into having a growth mindset.
Not taking things too personally – How to develop a thicker skin at work
Do you cope with criticism at work? Or do you feel every less-than-positive word is like a personal injury? When your skin is too thin for comfort you’re emotionally vulnerable, on edge and much more likely to feel overwhelmed or low. And that can make working life very uncomfortable indeed.
Shine at your next interview – How to prepare for success
How are you at job interviews? Some people cope just fine, managing to stay calm and focused. Others feel terribly nervous, forget what they want to say, lose the plot, fall apart. Do you struggle to give concise answers at interviews?
What is Emotional Intelligence? EQ is vital ingredient for success
Emotions are essential to human survival. But it’s all too easy for them to run away with us, especially under pressure. If you’ve ever really lost your temper in a work context you’ll know how unproductive it is. It can be difficult to handle and manage your emotions unless you know how you’re feeling from one moment to the next.
The exciting benefits of a multi-generational workplace
As the brilliant Chip Conley says in his Ted Talk about intergenerational workplaces, “It’s hard to microwave your emotional intelligence”.
The power of visual storytelling in a digital age
Michael and Jack Whitehall are an unlikely double-act - a father and son duo. In their talk-show, Backchat, and with their recent travel shows, Travels with my Father, they constantly, repeatedly miss each others’ point. Their humour is based on the fact that Michael aged 79 and Jack aged 29 live in the same world but also inhabit totally different worlds. Their assumptions, their beliefs, the things they value are at total variance with each other.
Affirming our differences – What’s your label?
In today’s complex, fluid world, many of us define ourselves by just one or two aspects of our identity. These identity-defining aspects are very important to us, and when we become invested in them that investment often takes the form of very strong emotions.
Working Intergenerationally – Coaching across the ages
Whether you’re looking to change career, enhance your coaching skills, manage people better or lead like a true professional, the general themes behind inter-generational coaching remain the same.
Optimise your business mind: Harness the Chimp Paradox
We have a lot in common with chimpanzees, our close genetic relatives. Like us they use tools, recognise themselves in mirrors, experience emotions. But if you've ever seen footage of chimps at war, chimps carrying out a brutal murder, chimps losing the plot completely, it's easy to see they're far from human. We tend to have more control over our emotions... most of the time!
Resistance to Change in the Workplace – And How to Handle it
Change in business is natural. It feeds progress and drives success. Organisations can change their tactics, strategies and plans, their management structure, the tech they use, their culture, goals, markets, priorities, all sorts of things. But at the same time research reveals around 70% of change fails thanks to resistant employees.
The One BIG Thing
In the self-help world there are numerous books that claim to you give the four essential things you need to do, the five secrets of success, or the six principles to follow. This is compounded by the fact that people love a list, whether it’s the top ten celebrity shots or the hundred best reads for summer. The formula for success often ends up as a list, something quick and easy to digest.
The 7 secrets to a great new role
We coach a lot of people in transition. Transition coaching, helping people move from one role to another, is a distinctive niche in the coaching market.
Gestalt Coaching – greater awareness, greater choices
Awareness is a vital part of the foundation on which Gestalt coaching sits, a core principle underpinning it. As a coach, awareness is the backbone of your practice - awareness of yourself, others and the contexts or systems you and they are operating in.
Your USP – define your unique selling point
In business it’s our USP, our Unique Selling Point, how we distinguish ourselves from everyone else, that makes us different, that makes us special. That’s why people want to buy from us. Our brand is what makes us distinctive. Our USP is the very thing that makes us what we are, our ‘thisness’.
Leaving your comfort zone – What happens at the edge?
Staying in your comfort zone may seem like a great idea. It feels really comfortable and familiar. The thing is, humans are wired to grow and develop.
Rustout– About Burnout’s Lesser-Known Relative
Search online and you might find a few articles about it, none of which are particularly comprehensive. 'Rustout' isn't anywhere near as well covered, explored and discussed as the better known 'burnout'.
How to be a Good Chair
Strong, healthy, dynamic organisations need strong, healthy, dynamic relationships, especially between the CEO and the Chair.
Why do business plans matter, and when do you need one?
The very term ‘business plan’ - AKA a business case - can be daunting. But writing one doesn’t necessarily have to be difficult.
You are not fixed in stone. Your personality changes over time. Here’s how – Part 1
You grow up, your personality gets fixed, and that's you for life... or is it? It looks like nobody's personality is set in stone. We change, and that's great news for your career. Read more...
How Your Personality Changes Through Life – Part 2
You change as you grow and experience life, and that's great to know. But how can you go about changing your own personality? It looks like it's possible. Find out here.
Executive burnout: Do you know how to spot the signs?
According to government statistics,stress, depression or anxiety accounted for 40% of all work-related ill health cases in 2016/17 and 49% of all working days lost due to ill health.
Executive Coaching Supervision – What isn’t said, what is said, and why both matter
It’s important to explore and develop a breadth of narratives during executive supervision. Stories, especially when told from different perspectives, can either loosen the initial first draft narrative, hold or strengthen it’s shape or even shift to an entirely different theme.
Getting creative in Executive Coaching Supervision
Creativity enhances all sorts of situations. Creative thinking often delivers sparkles of brilliance, amazing and unexpected insights. And a creative slant gives executive coaches some real advantages, helping them re-imagine situations, dream up unusual solutions, and see things very differently. Here’s how creativity in executive coaching supervision can be a real game-changer.
How values – And being savvy about them – Will enhance your career
Focusing on your deeply-held values can be extremely beneficial at every stage in your career. Understanding your core professional values and how they directly influence you in a working context will help you to be yourself with far more skill. Values ground and anchor you. When life and work engage your values strongly, and you can express them congruently, you’ll be more fulfilled. But when there’s tension and conflict around them, the opposite happens.
Go to the balcony in coaching supervision – Find a different perspective
As an executive coach, one of the most useful aspects of regular coaching supervision is that it helps you to think differently, to find important and exciting new frames on what's happening in your practice.
Does getting older really mean you’re inevitably going to become less on the ball? Not at all…
Ageing is inevitable. But as an executive does getting older really have to mean that you necessarily begin to forget things, noticeably slow down, become less sharp? Apparently not. Here's the good news about getting older.
How great managers create positive feedback loops
Feedback matters in business, and great managers set up the conditions where feedback is welcomed. They lead through walking the talk, by building strong, resilient relationships, and by welcoming feedback about their own performance. Giving feedback well - both negative or positive, is a skill every manager needs in order to improve the situation, enhance the person's, team's or department's performance.
Are You Blind-sided by Your Schemas?
Did you see it coming? MIT Professor Peter Senge suggests that one of the defining characteristics of leaders is their capacity to ‘read the signs well’. It’s called ‘sense-making’ and almost every great leader is also an excellent sense-maker.
Stress Recipe managers need to avoid
Central to any management position is the thought that people matter. Organisations may say people are their number 1 asset but it is usually up to line managers to demonstrate this by how they relate to their staff. Yet providing recognition in ways that work for everyone can be challenging for any manager.
Business Narratives
As business leaders the stories we tell, the narratives we weave, are often the key to our success.
Mind the Gap – How to Manage Expectations
There’s often a gap between what you expect and what you get, and it can cause ructions. You can avoid the pitfalls by managing your own and others’ expectations, but that’s easier said than done. Your first step? You need a good level of awareness, plus the knowledge that while the gap is often invisible in work conversations, that doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Here’s how to mind that gap.
Coaching and mentoring intergenerationally – when you were born matters!
In business it’s our USP, our Unique Selling Point, how we distinguish ourselves from everyone else, that makes us different, that makes us special. That’s why people want to buy from us. Our brand is what makes us distinctive. Our USP is the very thing that makes us what we are, our ‘thisness’.
The Paradox of Choice – Solving the Career Choice Enigma
Are you looking for career coaching? Are you considering changing tack and kicking off a new direction? Whatever sector you’re in, whatever your role, it’s all about making choices. And, surprising as it may seem, having choices doesn’t always make life easy!
Saying ‘No’ Without Causing Hurt, Offence or Consternation!
If you struggle to say 'No' at work, whether it's to your employees or those line manage you, here's how to use this small word to improve your working life.
A Practical Approach to Resilience at Work
Work demands things of us. The job itself, colleagues, bosses, clients and suppliers all create pressure. But demands that are difficult or impossible to meet create too much pressure, which in turn drives stress.
How to make the most of your coaching supervision sessions.
Every coach is different, and every effective coaching supervisor understands how important it is to get the practical side of things right from the start. Setting up the right context for yourself and preparing well pays enormous dividends, enhancing the quality of your sessions
Managing Virtual Teams to Achieve Powerful Results
You can be as brilliant as you like as an individual, or as a group of individuals, and once you form a fully-functioning team, whether it's virtual or physical, you almost always achieve more than the sum of the parts. Having said that, without careful management and constant nurturing a virtual team can easily fail to gel properly in the first place... and just as easily fall apart.
How to become an Authentic Leader
As independent coaches, we're often seen as a useful resource to bring in when every other internal remedy has failed, a final port of call for people the organisation is struggling with. They frequently ask us to deal with problem issues.
Recognising the people who give us real confidence
Who gives you confidence? Here’s why trusted advisors help business executives achieve the very best in their game.
Teams, Creativity & All That Jazz – Why Teamwork Should Be Fun
Different conversations are central to strong leadership. At the Listening Partnership we call it ‘Conversational Dexterity’. Conversations are essential to organisations, and that means having a good breadth and depth of conversational competence then applying it deftly in different situations. No wonder great conversational skills form such a vital part of a strong leader’s repertoire.
Great leadership needs conversational dexterity
Different conversations are central to strong leadership. At the Listening Partnership we call it ‘Conversational Dexterity’. Conversations are essential to organisations, and that means having a good breadth and depth of conversational competence then applying it deftly in different situations. No wonder great conversational skills form such a vital part of a strong leader’s repertoire.
Boards – Passing the baton, getting succession right
Get it wrong and a business can nosedive. Here's some advice about making changes to your Board of Directors positively and professionally.
The Strategic Perspective – Foxes, Hedgehogs and Dragonflies
Does your Board have the right focus? Recognising foxes, hedgehogs and forging their thoughts together to create the acuity of dragonflies can give your Board a powerful strategic perspective...
Team Building Chatbots – The Future of Executive Coaching?
As recently reported in New Scientist magazine, innovative chatbot software created by London HR company Saberr is helping team members communicate better. Called CoachBot, it assesses workplace dynamics, 'listens' to people's complaints and puts forward ways to help make teams more productive.
About Executive Coaching Supervision – Being your very best
As this century progresses, the workplace is steadily becoming more challenging. The skill set you need as a leadership coach today is broader and deeper than it has ever been.
How to choose a coaching supervisor
How will you choose the best coaching supervisor for you? Who might stand out from the crowd for you? How will you know for sure that you have found that person? Here are some ideas that may help you make this crucial decision.
How to turn mistakes into positive learning experiences
While it's annoying to discover you've got something wrong, mistakes happen... to everyone. Luckily the most important thing is the way we view the mistakes we make.
Body Language and Coaching – Going Right to the Heart
Body language sits at the heart of great coaching. How well do you listen to your clients' body language, and your own? Find out all about it...
Context counts – Listening with your client’s system in mind
The best executive coaches listen with their clients' systems firmly in mind. Here's why systems are so important in a coaching landscape.
Listening and the power of silence – Why stillness matters
Two types of stillness, two kinds of silence. Here's how the best executive coaches harness quiet to help their clients find insight and inspiration.
Are your coaching clients trapped by their own language?
Un-stick someone's language traps and you can change their working lives for the better. And it's often a dramatic improvement. Here's how.
The different dimensions of listening
People frequently talk about levels of listening as if listening is a set of logical steps that you can access one after the other. Sometimes listening is compared to driving from first to fifth gear then back down again, occasionally back tracking and moving into reverse!
Do you harness sensory languages with your coaching clients?
Being aware of sensory languages makes you a much better, more perceptive executive coach. Here's what you need to know about them.
Listening to your clients – Giving people space to think
Listening is the most obvious skill that executive coaches offer clients. It's really important, as an executive coach, to acquire top class listening skills.
As a coach, how good are you at listening to your inner dialogue?
One of your most valuable skills, as an executive coach, is listening to yourself. It helps you hear your clients better and delivers significant results.
WARNING: Master manipulator at work! Here’s how to defuse them.
A workplace manipulator can make people miserable, ruin teams, breed suspicion and damage your bottom line. Here's how to deal with them.
What is team facilitation all about?
Having an impartial external team facilitator can pay impressive dividends, working closely with everyone to generate the best outcomes...
Steering Clear of Leader’s Bottleneck Syndrome
As a leader, you end up involved in every tiny aspect of the business. You eventually end up in a leader's bottleneck. Here's how to avoid it.
Here’s how to polish your completer-finisher skills
Do you start off fired up with enthusiasm then steadily deflate? If you have issues with deadlines, here's how to polish your completer-finisher skills.
Why Curiosity is an Executive Coach’s Best Friend
The best Executive Coaches are naturally curious, and they are also excellent listeners. It is a powerful combination – find out more about curiosity here.
How Prioritising Your Workload Pays Dividends
Prioritising is an essential skill, often the only way to stay sane in a world that just keeps getting busier. Here's some help to stay in control
New to leadership – what does it really mean for you?
Others are looking for you to demonstrate leadership, make sure decisions and create an impact quickly. Gaining real credibility with your new team is crucial.
Delegating well and avoiding pitfalls
Delegation is a sanity-saver, a distinct management skill that can change the way you work for the better and enable you to achieve more. Here's how.
How to make a brilliant job of your next interview
Are you great at interviews, or do you get stuck at certain points? Here are some great tips for creating the very best job interview experience for everyone concerned.
How to Run Great Business Meetings
There's a way to run face to face and virtual meetings. Get it right, and it will enhance your career as well as getting essential things done. Here's how.
Managing your perfectionism at work
Perfectionism at work can be a wonderful thing. It can also be a nightmare for you and everyone around you. Here's how to deal with it and dial it down.
How to make your CV stand out
A great CV sits at the heart of every successful career move. How do you create a winning CV that gets you that new role? Here are our CV tips.
Golden threads in coaching
There is power in simplicity. If you can articulate the core principles in a way that others can quickly grasp, it makes running a coaching practice so much easier.
Taking humour seriously in business coaching
Humour can be a surprisingly powerful intervention and source of learning within a strong business coaching relationship. It rarely, however, seems to be given much air time on coaching courses.
The power of metaphor in executive coaching
Awareness of metaphors in coaching conversations and understanding how to explore these with clients provides a powerful way of working for any executive coach.
Coaching and organisations – the metaphorical dimension
As executive coaches, listening out for the ways in which clients use metaphors in their business systems, can provide valuable insight. It gives information, data that can be drawn up to the surface of their thinking and evaluated, kept or changed.
Leadership luck
Leaders need to be open to what fortune, or the market throws at them. Yet great leaders often seem to be luckier than others. Or are they just better able to respond to the circumstances they’re dealt?
Leadership in 9 words
Leaders can tell a story in a way that captures the imagination of their people and holds their interest. That’s why knowing how to enthral your audience with a succinct tale is such a potent skill…
Signature presence
Executive coaching as a profession is growing rapidly. How coaches position themselves is becoming increasingly important. Coaches need to be able to communicate their distinctiveness and what they offer confidently and succinctly.
Leadership and mood
Leaders determine the mood of their teams, their departments and their organisations. Cultivating eight simple practices can increase a leader’s capacity to diffuse a positive mood company-wide through a process known as 'limbic resonance' thanks to the pioneering work of
What would Google do?
The world’s most successful internet company, google, has lots to teach us all about how to thrive in business today and in the future. What would google do? Is a great question to start our thinking… in 1896 christian socialist,...
Coaching is all Greek to me
Many people think coaching is easy. After all, doesn’t it just involve waiting for the person you’re coaching to arrive at their own answers? However to be the kind of coach that makes it look effortless, you first need...
Choosing a facilitator
There are times in the life of every group when the team has a really difficult matter to resolve, or would benefit from fresh thinking and a different perspective. There may also be meetings when you as team leader would...
Team performance
Teams are the basic building block of business, but few teams always perform at their best. Paying attention to how they’re set up and how they’re expected to function as a group is vital. By following a few simple ...
Great CVs pass the 20 second test
Information overload and constant visual distraction make it increasingly tough to hold a reader’s attention. By applying seven simple rules, you can create a CV that’ll be noticed, remembered and get you shortlisted...
Getting your career unstuck
Being stuck in your career is no fun. Getting yourself out of a role or an organisation that’s just not you can feel impossible. If you start to follow the ‘six laws of holes’ there’s hope and a bright ...
I’m on the road to nowhere
Whenever a team meets, there are two dangers: an outcome no one really wants or slipping into complacent groupthink. Both involve the sacrifice of beneficial results and informed decision-making. However, there is another way… british indie band, the subways, could've...